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Blogs > sadock_76 > Random Thoughts re: AFF et al

Honest people seem to get caught in a double bind  

sadock_76 51M
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12/1/2008 9:33 pm
Honest people seem to get caught in a double bind

I've noticed that quite a few members say they are looking for someone who is honest, reliable, or trustworthy. It's been my experience that anyone who claims to be any of these things usually isn't. These are all character traits which can only truly be demonstrated via a person's actions over time.

The paradox this creates boggles me. Hypothetical example: Joe Honest is interested in Jane Honesty Seeker. If Joe claims to be honest, it appears he's naive at best, deceptive at worst. If he doesn't then Jane may not give him the time of day. Is one of my premises flawed or does this really make as little sense as it seems to? How are the members advertising their desire for these characteristics expecting to weed out liars from soothsayers during preliminary correspondence?

Then again, I'm not sure why anyone would say they're looking for such traits to begin with. Isn't this one of those things that's sort of self evident? Who would intentionally seek out companions who deceived and betrayed their friends?!? Is it that attraction to bad boys/girls or what?

As always, comments are most welcome and much appreciated.

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