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Plastic surgery = insecure?
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Plastic surgery = insecure? Hey there blog friends, sorry I've been so quiet. Just been working my butt off and playing hard too.  So, here is the ponderance of the day. Is everyone that has plastic surgery insecure by definition? I'm not talking of course those that have it for some disfigurement (breast cancer, etc.). I'm talking about people that have something about them that is well within normal, but they choose to alter it. At what point does it become vain? I take a pretty hard line on plastic surgery. I'm small chested, even extremely so. I shop for bras in the little girls' department, no joke. But I'd never consider surgery. In the end, I attract men that are interested in who I am, and, well, OK, the legs and butt don't hurt. And there are some people that would never be attracted to me, and that's just fine.In the end, there will always be things about yourself that you don't like and just have to accept. For me, accepting the things on the outside that everone can see only helps me to be better about accepting the things on the inside that other people can't see. Trying to perfect yourself only leads to ruin. So I say cosmetic surgery = insecure. Agree? Disagree? (And BTW, it is not as if people fall into only two camps, 'secure' and 'insecure.' We're all insecure to some degree, that's just what being human is about. But too many are in denial.) Song for the day: india.arie "Video" Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I dont Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I wont Depend on how the wind blows I might even paint my toes It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul I'm not the average girl from your video And I ain't built like a supermodel But I learned to love myself unconditionally Because I am a queen I'm not the average girl from your video My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes No matter what I'm wearing I will always be india arie When I look in the mirror the only one there is me Every freckle on my face is where its supposed to be And I know my creator didn't make no mistakes on me My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes; I'm lovin what I see I'm not the average girl from your video And I ain't built like a supermodel But I learned to love myself unconditionally Because I am a queen I'm not the average girl from your video My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes No matter what I'm wearing I will always be india arie Am I less of a lady if I don't wear pantyhose? My mama said a lady ain't what she wears but what she knows But, I've drawn a conclusion, its all an illusion, Confusion's the name of the game A misconception, mass deception Something's gotta change Don't be offended this is all my opinion Ain't nothing that I'm sayin' law This is a true confession of a life learned lesson I was sent here to share with Y'all So get in where you fit in go on and shine Clear your mind, now's the time Put your salt on the shelf Go on and love yourself 'cuz everythings gonna be all right I'm not the average girl from your video And I ain't built like a supermodel But I learned to love myself unconditionally Because I am a queen I'm not the average girl from your video My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes No matter what I'm wearing I will always be india arie Keep your fancy drinks and your expensive minks I don't need that to have a good time Keep your expensive car and your caviar All I need is my guitar Keep your Crystale and your pistol I'd rather have a pretty piece of crystal Don't need your silicone I prefer my own What God gave me is just fine I'm not the average girl from your video And I ain't built like a supermodel But I learned to love myself unconditionally Because I am a queen I'm not the average girl from your video My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes No matter what I'm wearing I will always be india arie |
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I suppose I should have also exempted those that do it to further their own goals of some type. My cousin-in-law was a model and got implants to further her career, and later had them removed. When I asked her what it was like and why she had them taken out, she said, "Eh, they were fun toys, but they were kind of a pain." I'm mostly talking about the 'I did it for me' crowd. 'It enhances my self-esteeem!' Really. You like yourelf more now that your boobs are bigger?
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5/28/2009 5:57 pm |
Whether for insecurity or not (and barring repair work for the disfigured) I have always preferred natural over "enhanced". My ex, just after I met her, went from an A to a D when shooting for a B when the doc put in the wrong size bags. Legal action possibilities aside, I gotta say that I would have prefered the A's to the slightly puckered bags of salt water. ...and I've always been a leg and butt man anyway. 
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I would have to agree with the insecurity side of things. my ex had 2 boob jobs and I really think it changed her personality. After the second one she dressed in more revealing tops and pretty much flaunted her breasts. Not a good message to send to our daughters unfortunately. But thats partially why shes my ex...LOL!
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Hi Never commented or talked to you before so here it is. Love your topic. Case study #1 I was married once and had a Xwife ask me if I would mind if she would get a reduction because she was having back pain her size was 36D. I said go for it and the the onslaught began from there about how I want her to change. Case # 2 Had a X GF 32A later that wanted to get breast enlargements and had to keep talking here out of it and she was by had the best breast I have ever saw in my life at 40 she was as perkeee as a 18yr old. So small breast women want to get the attention and large breast ladies want to keep getting it but when it all starts to drag small looks 10 times better  )LOL. Really PS is for show unless of med reasons. Love what you have and enjoy!!!!!!
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6/10/2009 11:39 am |
I don't think that it's all insecurity. It's more like vanity. So people just aren't happy enough with being themselves. They would rather be better than the next person, ( so they think), and fofiet a piece of their self-respect.
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Hello yes you are right, people do get it for some purely neurotic reasons. But here is a scenario I am yet to find an answer for, a man all his grown life has been put down, laughed at, shamed and humiliated by women, all because he has a small cock. Now he is in a position to try and have it lengthened a bit more, should he do it? As this man has explained to me, NO one can no the pain he has and is going through, unless we went/go through it ourselves. And no smart ass remarks from the big dick brigade will make any difference here, you all do not have a clue.....
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Good comments all. Please understand, I'm not judging these people as bad people, only as insecure. And, we're all a little insecure. I can't really relate to the guy with the small dick, except to say I know some guys that are small, and very secure. And I can tell you that when women say they are ridiculed and shamed for having small breasts, well, outside of junior high that hasn't ever been my experience. I used to THINK everyone was laughing at me, but that was all stuff that I made up in my own head. So, I can say I've had experience with small breasts, though not everyone's experience will be the same as mine. I think there is a clear line between fixing things that are abnormal (cleft palate, etc.) and normal (my breasts may be small, but they are perfectly normal). If it makes you feel better and you want to do it, go ahead. Just don't mislead yourself as to why you are doing it.
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