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The Lost Art of the Seduction
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The Lost Art of the Seduction When did “My, you seem very lovely, I would like to get to know you”, get replaced by “Wanna see my cock”? Is that what we have reduced ourselves to, defining ourselves as worthy partners based on our willingness to show our genitals? Is there no more mystery? Has the ability to broadcast yourself to whomever is willing to look doing various levels of sex acts either alone or with others the way to meet people? I would hate to think that because if it is, I will be a very lonely woman. Seriously, guys, I realize that you do get overcome by raging hormones when the thought of someone looking at your erection enters you larger head, but most women would rather have you say something sweet, clever, and creative. It can be suggestive, but if so, subtle and witty. I for one can say without any second thoughts that if I like you as a person, you can have a baby carrot between your legs and I would make love to it and you like it was 10” long. Conversely, an ass hole with a large cock, a selfish lout with an enhanced sense of self worth, does nothing for me. I think it’s insulting to women to think that all we care about is your dick. We don’t, as long as you have one, we can make do with it. This is one step from cave men clubbing and dragging a woman back to his cave. Just not sure if its a step up or down, just that it is one step away. Do all you care about is the size of our breasts? If so, am I in trouble. |
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I can assure you not all men are rude and crude cavemen!! I know there are many nice respectfull decent, though horny men on here. Sex is great fun but treating your' partner well and respectfully is important to me and I'm sure many other guys. I do not post pics of my genitals. I and I'm sure many other men like to get to know our' partner and playmate's interests both in and out of bed, whether we are just FWB or longterm. PLZ do NOT worry about being small breasted! I for one prefer small to average sized breasts. I am more interested physically in a ladies leggss!! Personality!! and Interests!! If a womans breasts are realy large they actually can turn me off! They may remind me of the underside of a dairy cow, before being milked. No I'm not a farmer. lol I doubt that all men, like or are impressed by large chested ladies, even though man guys love big breasts. Likewise I am glad to know that not all women want a man with 'large' equipment. I am 'average' in size. I would rather be liked and wanted because of my personlity, interests etc. I must be honest I would not complain if I woke up one morning, permanantly a bit larger.  It would not change the way I feel about and how I would treat a woman.You sound like a nice, fun, intelligent, mature young lady. I honestly wish you lived closer to me 
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1 post 1/2/2011 4:41 am |
An opener like 'My, you seem very lovely..' is just as unlikely to elicit a response as 'you'll luv my dick'. If a man took the time to read a girls profile and scope her pictures, he'd probably find something more personalized and less sensitive for an initial contact. You would also think a fully-matured, intelligent adult would be able to come up with something more charming or seductive than 'Wanna see my cock?' Truly, men only have enough blood to function one head at a time. Why are women so self conscious of their tits?? You should be more concerned about that fat ass 
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While i totally agree with your sentiments on this topic, I have to admit guilt of coming at some women on this site very aggressively but not all. The way i first introduce myself to a female on this website goes on a case by case situation based on what a female says she is looking for in her own introduction (yes unlike some men on here i do actually take the time out to read what a woman has to say in her profile before i hit her up profound and unheard of i know) and two the type of pix/videos she chooses to post up of herself. So you can imagine the reaction that myself, like most other guys,would give when we come across a female's page where she has 8 pix up 4 are pix of her vagina 2 of her breasts and 2 of her ass as opposed to a woman that has 2 tastefully done head shots 4 full body shots of her well dressed and another 2 in some sexy lingerie(guess which one would get the “My, you seem very lovely, I would like to get to know you” msg and which would get “Wanna see my cock” msg). All i'm saying is if this was like say eHarmony or Match.com the quality of people might be a lil better but no offense this is BBW Tonight so you will get the classy with the trashy and if a guy is coming at you trashy you put his name out there because you are definitely one of the more classy young ladies on this site that makes it worth visiting . P.S hun don't worry, some of us men, myself included like an all natural woman and i know my opinion is just that, an opinion,if you could see yourself through my eyes you would know you have ABSOLUTELY nothing to worry about c0urtn3y
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Not all of us are like that. You have to many people running around this site trying to find their sexuality. Most themselves don't even know where to begin. It's funny how little we understand about ourselves. I find myself privileged and taxed at the same time for being able to goof around at a pretty early start. 21 with an x doing fairly casual (within reason) threesomes. But it can be taxing too because of the known uncertainties of when someone new begins to experiment. Not much talent to choose from, you might say. I think society drives the common man to run around with his pecker in his hand.  I want to start a school for sex. And I will be Sex Chancellor Brad. Our motto, "Get your fucking degree here!" I think many in this world would benefit from a few lessons!
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Women on this site create a trap for themselves. They want a meaningful personal interaction instead of a quick come on, but they are expecting a random stranger to be immediately warm, funny, creative, and insightful enough to make a connection with them before they have communicated back in any meaningful way. It's impossible to carry on a 1 sided conversation.
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I don't think you have anything to worry about...don't get me wrong I'm sure some dudes only go for chicks with certain types of breasts. However, I would be more concerned when your pants came down if my carrot gets sucked in like the capsule at the drive thru bank...and if so then that would be my first and LAST deposit.  I understand we are hundreds of mile away but I'm down for an intelligent, comprehensive, possibly even MIND stimulating conversation ANYtime you are free. Maybe next time I see you on I'M!? take care
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11/2/2010 11:25 am |
Thank you. You have taken the words right out of my mouth. And the same may be said of women. A little or a lot should be left to the imagination. Not to badmouth this site, but...It puts the interview in hyper drive and cuts to the chase. However there is a lot to be found in the chase kc
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11/2/2010 11:10 am |
Part of this is the times we live in (you can get food from a drive threw in less than 5 minutes, pizza delivered in under 30 minutes, video on demand, get cash from an ATM without having to talk to another human being) and the other part is the anonymity of the internet and BBW Tonight in general. BBW Tonight isn't like a church dance, there is no real thought of trying to build a long relationship or start with a friendship first. BBW Tonight is a "sex" site and first pushing hook-ups is it's "thing" and anything else you can get from it is secondary (love, a relationship, a lasting friendship- read some profiles, how many mention any of that?). A lot of guys are just looking for a hook-up and a woman (lol, any woman) will do. Also, if your going to get rejected 1,000 times, that means a guy has to send out 1,001 e-mails so the email's will tend to get very simplistic, not very original and also tend to "get to the point" a lot quicker. I'm not saying it's right and I'm not saying it's fair, I'm just trying to explain why it's happening. If it's a "sex" site guys will go crazy for a woman they think they have a chance at bedding and not so much flock to a woman who posts "I want a long lasting friendship first and then marriage- only then I would be willing to have sex with my husband" and see what kind of responses you'd be getting here on BBW Tonight (oddly enough I'd bet you'd get a few more marriage proposals too...) Again, basically part of it is the times we live in and secondly it's a function of BBW Tonight. Now if your ever at a church dance and I guy wants to show you pictures of his man-junk, that's a whole different problem, but that is a universal complaint of women all on BBW Tonight how the erotic art of seduction has been replaced by a fax containing a picture of a guys penis with the words "Let' hook up!" and his phone number...
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Yeah, I think the cock pictures are tiring. So are the bare, stretched close-up pussy pics. But guys tend to have the cock pics more often than gals have the pussy shots. Don't get me wrong. I'm a guy and I'm visually simulated. I love a women in heels, lace, and a garter belt. Lingerie is very exciting. I love shopping for it too with my woman.
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