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Concentric Circles Do you have one of those friends that constantly tells you stories of how terrible their boyfriend is? Co-dependent love just seems to be worst. Especially for friends to deal with. As a friend now, we have had to deal with constant break ups and arguements along ith her pleas for advice. She paints a picture of her life with an unappreciative, bored, lazy piece of shit that doesn't deserve her time and effort. He breaks her heart every single time he is given a choice to do the right thing, he's a bastard and asshole that-- OH, she already got back with him yesterday. In a nutshell, i got sick of this friend and her rollerciaster of emotions. Slowly, i began to realize tgthat at this was her own form of manipulation. To pull at your heart strings so she can tell you how bad everything is, to get you to feel soory for the position she is in. One day, she messaged me to tell me he went out drinking, and she hates when he drinks. When i talked to her. I found out that there is never any violence, no harassment nothing abusive. She just doesn't like when he has something else to do. On that note, the guy really is a lazy do nothing. He comes into a room and you can feel the energy turn into this oppressing feeling of boredom and resentment that he's hard to ignore and difficult to be around. So, i choose to avoid him. So, for the last two years. It's been one break up after another. She convinces us that was never right for her and she ends up back with him the next day. I have never pulled my punches when giving her advice about him. I don't excuse his behaviour. If he wants out, then let him go. I've told her to go find a man. Not some guy with arrested development issues that she found browsing in the toy aisle at Walmart. Don't get me wrong though, there isn't some deep rooted resentment or jealousy on my part. I just got sick being lied to about how bad it is for her. She made an announcement the other day on FB that she has entered a relationship with her barnacle again. I commented, Congratulations! Are we supposed to forget all of the bad things you sais about him again? |
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I think people get addicted to the drama that stuff like that creates... not only do they get the drama of the relationship itself, they get the drama that talking about the relationship creates too. A regular good relationship would probably feel boring to people like that.
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