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nerdygirl721 34F  
1176 posts
9/2/2016 3:48 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    So at times like this, I just withdraw. ... That's a good idea. Sometimes a vacation is in order.

    I wonder why all my life I've been shamed for how I view or think about things. ...This is a tricky one, and you're not alone. Everyone has gone through this , and especially as media continues to transform our perspectives since the 1970s, at least, everyone, you , I , just about anyone with a brain of their own will feel weighted down. I know many try to shame me, as well. It's a push to establish conformity according to what , I'm not sure, but it stinks.

    In only a month, I've been shown more consideration, kindness and acceptance here, then I've ever felt. ... That's the object these sites, sex minded or not, that focus is to find like minded people, or just listen to what's out there. Or even study what's out there.

    Good girl, bad girl these labels use to drive me crazy. ... Again , you're not alone. Reward and punishment. Good, bad, agree, disagree. Peer pressure. Mob pressure to conform. Usually very subtle, but it's there. Sometimes navigating streams of thought , your own, and from others, and projecting your own views, feels like being on a Mobius strip. Sometimes damned if you do, sometimes damned if you don't.

    I've always been different from those around me. ... That's okay, but you're going to attract a lot of flack for that.

    Always having to bite my tongue and just nod my head. ... Don't always do that. You let some moron get away with essentially saying, "If you have nothing nice to say [about my view], don't say anything". All that means is, "If you don't agree with me, shut up".

    Alot of things I will never understand or maybe with time I will grow to understand. .... That's the way it works if you keep yourself focused on your own path and not blindly follow the sheeple and lemmingples.

    But at this point? I can't see the logic of it. ... It will become clear in time, and you can agree with it, or you can take a bat and figuratively smack it down, but be prepared to stand your ground.
Thank you. I'll be honest. Sometimes I look at the people around me with confusion. I do try to understand, but I get so angry when others put me down or try to make me conform. It helps to know that there are others out there that's like minded. I only bit my tongue because I don't want to fight. I get tired of having the same debate. While I would never tried to force my ideas on someone, I hope to teach but it turns into a fight. It's safer sometimes to say nothing.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/2/2016 7:44 pm

    Quoting nerdygirl721:
    Thank you. I'll be honest. Sometimes I look at the people around me with confusion. I do try to understand, but I get so angry when others put me down or try to make me conform. It helps to know that there are others out there that's like minded. I only bit my tongue because I don't want to fight. I get tired of having the same debate. While I would never tried to force my ideas on someone, I hope to teach but it turns into a fight. It's safer sometimes to say nothing.
I'll be honest. Sometimes I look at the people around me with confusion. ... If you mean by "Around you" ,as meaning close friends or family, then maybe it's time for a separation.

I get so angry when others put me down or try to make me conform. ... Always be suspicious when too many others, or [especially] public media is telling you , "Like this", "Support that", "Do this".

Take in information, and think for yourself. A good example of this, was that Bruce Jenner fiasco.

It helps to know that there are others out there that's like minded. I only bit my tongue because I don't want to fight. ...If you don't fight, you don't promote change, and the idiots get to set social norms.

I get tired of having the same debate. ... Ha... tell me about it.

It's safer sometimes to say nothing. ... Safer, yes. More peaceful, yes. But then idiots over run.


nerdygirl721 34F  
1176 posts
9/3/2016 12:36 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    I'll be honest. Sometimes I look at the people around me with confusion. ... If you mean by "Around you" ,as meaning close friends or family, then maybe it's time for a separation.

    I get so angry when others put me down or try to make me conform. ... Always be suspicious when too many others, or [especially] public media is telling you , "Like this", "Support that", "Do this".

    Take in information, and think for yourself. A good example of this, was that Bruce Jenner fiasco.

    It helps to know that there are others out there that's like minded. I only bit my tongue because I don't want to fight. ...If you don't fight, you don't promote change, and the idiots get to set social norms.

    I get tired of having the same debate. ... Ha... tell me about it.

    It's safer sometimes to say nothing. ... Safer, yes. More peaceful, yes. But then idiots over run.
When I say fighting, I mean actual fighting. Where I'm from intellectual debate doesn't happen. It goes from accusations to fists swinging. That's the reason why I've been isolated from family, I get attacked because I'm not a "good girl" and I do think for myself.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/3/2016 1:37 am

    Quoting nerdygirl721:
    When I say fighting, I mean actual fighting. Where I'm from intellectual debate doesn't happen. It goes from accusations to fists swinging. That's the reason why I've been isolated from family, I get attacked because I'm not a "good girl" and I do think for myself.
That's okay.

Fact is , most of the time it's the family of the child [and other loved ones; boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses] that holds us back from our goals, and parents push their own perspective onto their children.


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