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Chemistry...............  

rm_1realdarlin 55F
372 posts
9/4/2006 7:49 am

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9/26/2006 9:23 pm
Chemistry...............

When looking for someone of the opposite sex what is it ur looking for first? I was gonna give examples but u know what im talking about. The importance to me lies in attraction first. Many say personality first but i oh so disagree. If ya cant look at someone the personality dont help none. Personality comes after that for me, which includes the sense of humor, honesty and openness. Which leads me to the reason for my post.

Many times i have wrote a post about who it is i have met recently and the fun or not so much fun we had. In times passed i have seen or "dated" many at once.

I have found since having a hysterectomy the want to do that just isnt there. Since having it ihave only been out with or dated 2 people. The first was just too drama filled for me. The second one is a blast to hang out with, great personality and the sex is getting better for me i cant answer for him.
Anyway lol to continue... We are both quiet, dont share much about what it is we are thinking. Most times i go out with someone that brings that out in me. When seeing someone thats the same way, u tend to not get to the deeper levels of what it is u want, in my opinion. I feel he is holding back, i sure know i am .

Soooo my question being this, how do i being quiet, shy and reserved ( yes i am) find out what it is i wanna know when simply asking dont do it???? When we go out i wanna hear "wow u look nice" or damn ur cute . i know u all will help me out and im sure he himself will see this lol so maybe he will even help me out!!

rm_1realdarlin 55F
79 posts
9/5/2006 8:08 am

 Ok lets see here, Take a compliment and roll eyes "check" but not a argument lol. I more like the reserved type, i think thats the reason im more willing to hang out with the ones that dont share much.(as i am the same way) Nothing annoys me more than someone, anyone, talking about something, anything, for like 15-20 minutes without a breath, hell i forget what we started talking about in the first place. Some have called that ADD others have said i just dont care what others have to say. I say its long winded people dont know when to shut the hell up!!!

OOOOOoooook one problem with coming up with open ended questions..... im not a talker either!!! I am used to going out with people that are the talkers and or able to ask questions, which makes me answer and im able to bounce it back on them. but imma gonna try and see what happens. hes very intelligent i think and is in the same bracket as me where what im thinking no one else wants to know.

Thank you for the thoughts and im gonna try


rm_1realdarlin 55F
79 posts
9/6/2006 5:26 am

 Wait one dang minute, i need to clarify something here!!!!! It is not me that has a problem accepting a compliment or even him for that matter. I give em out whenever theres something i like, i never hear em from him thats my problem. When i get one i tend to say Thank You smile and sometimes even blush. How do i get em is what im asking?


rm_1realdarlin 55F
79 posts
9/8/2006 9:35 pm

 LOL!!! The gippers winnin the war danget!!

He does all sorts of other things, i just think he doesnt think its necesary to say anything. I did however get one from him outta the blue the other night and i thought he had read this but he hadnt, o well i was glad to hear it and it made me smile so who cares!!

I know im worthwhile, beautiful and one hell of a person,thats not what im after. I just wanna know that he likes how im dressed and the way i smell as an example. The approval of how u look and the way u r dressed when going out with someone is always nice to hear i believe. He has said to me if he didnt like it he wouldnt be going out with me, that simple i spose.

I thank You for all ur thoughts and wish u the best of luck Darlin


DoveOK 64F

9/26/2006 10:31 am

 I always talk during sex beodd1... ya know stuff like... "you sure have a pretty head" and "damn! just where do you think ur gonna put THAT!!!?" "How bout them LONGHORNS!!!" and "I got mine... git offa me"

darlin.. try this.. "Ya know what about you really gets me goin?" or ask him.. "What do you find special about me?"

Growing up.. I was always told how ugly I was.. how I did not "fit" in... until I believed it. When someone compliments me.. its hard for me to take. I must admit I've done the "eye roll". It was difficult for me and if a guy told me I was beautiful or he loved me.. I left... because I knew he was a liar. It was not until I was able to see myself in someone special's eyes.. how he really felt.. how I appeared to him.. I believed him.. I am more accepting of myself now. I don't need to hear compliments.. but I love to hear them.


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