Thinking Can Be a Bad Thing...
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Posted:Apr 1, 2006 7:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 3, 2006 5:53 am
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Allsleeky recently mentioned in her blog about partners seeking other partners that have similarities with their parents.
This is both a subconscious choice and a conscious choice. All of the problems between my girlfriend and I are because she does things that remind me of my mother. To me, this is an instant turn-off and normally leads to an immediate argument.
These similarities did not come to the surface till we had been dating for 6 months already. It is possible that they were there from the beginning and I just didn’t pick up on them until our relationship actually began to go somewhere.
Now I am faced with the choice of possibly marrying someone that is identical to my mother, or ending that relationship.
Sure my mother has many good qualities, but the ones my girlfriend has that are identical to my mother’s are not the good ones.
Things like…
Throwing trash and wrappers all over the place and saying, “I’ll pick them up later.” Of course, I am the one who picks them up later because she is either too lazy to do it or forgets about doing it.
Never cleaning up after herself when she cooks. I really hate the fact that she doesn’t keep her area clean while she is cooking as well. If she was more organized, there wouldn’t be such a large mess to clean up afterwards.
Thankfully I don’t know anything about my mother in a sexual sense. I just wish my girlfriend knew more about dragging out foreplay. I think she fails to realize that kissing and cuddling will always feel better to me in an intimate sense than vaginal penetration ever will. After seven months, she still fails to see that kissing is the only way I become erect. Looking at her naked body or touching her does absolutely nothing for me at all. It’s not until our bodies are pressed against each other and our lips are locked that I actually become aroused. You would think she would realize this since I will begin to get turned off if we are in a position that stops me from being able to kiss her frequently. I am deeply depressed with this considering she has had sex with several other men. She should know more about this stuff than I do. Or perhaps all of the sex therapists and doctors in our world are right… those of us men and women who wait a long period of time before having sex, often know and have a much deeper understanding for it than everyone else.
I think the thing that gets me the most upset is that she never changes regardless of how much I talk to her about these things. She seems to listen and care and everything will be fine for about twelve hours. After that period, everything turns backwards again and she is doing all the things I tried to get her to stop doing.
Sometimes I come to the realization that I was right when I began posting blogs here over a year ago…
I was a heck of a lot happier and smarter than I realized before when I was a “virgin” and “single”.
Who knows?
“Sighs”
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What do I believe?
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Posted:Mar 31, 2006 3:34 pm
Last Updated:May 30, 2024 12:10 pm
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I have recently been told that everything contained within a book is wrong. Who told me this? My girlfriends parents told me this because I was offended by the fact that they allow their teenage and his teenage girlfriend to have sex in their house without trying to discourage it or even encourage them to use a condom when doing it.
As a result of this, I stopped interacting with their and his girlfriend. I was repulsed by how they acted in public as well. When his girlfriend would go to public places and sit on a bench and suck on the neck of a bottle like she was giving her boyfriend a blowjob, this was a deciding point for me that I did not want to be around them. After finding out that they were caught having sex at a recent funeral, I was even less impressed with them.
I ended up in a very big blowup with my girlfriends parents. I got sick and tired of them always glorifying their 16 year old and talking to my girlfriend (their ) like she was a worthless piece of crap.
As a result of all of this, my girlfriend has disowned her family. As expected, they blame me for her actions. They claim that I am a horrible influence on her. They even claim that she never use to care about her brother having sex with his girlfriend until she met me. What they do not know is that she told me when I first met her that she was disappointed with the fact that her parents allow their and his girlfriend to have sex in their house.
As the blowup continued, I pointed out to her parents a few things that they did not like.
They were trying to get me to like them because they knew that my girlfriend would follow suite with whatever choice I made. As a result, her parents tried to tell me that they never allowed the two of them to have sex.
I reminded them of one simple thing… they knowingly allowed them to sleep in a bed together. You minus well just invite them to be having sex together.
Her mother is always bragging about how mature and smart her is. I reminded her that she claims she allowed her and his girlfriend to sleep in the same bed together because she felt he was mature enough to not engage in sexual activities. I simply reminded her that he failed in her test. She believed he would be mature enough to not have sex, and he jumped at the opportunity to have sex. This is not the actions of a mature individual.
Her mother and father then asked me how I planned to stop my from someday having sex. I reminded them that I never plan on trying to stop my or from having sex. All I care about is knowing that they know how to have sex in a way that will please them “and their partner.”
It is not my having sex that worries me. It is the fact that they may not attend to the needs of their partner that bothers me.
As modern research shows…
The younger a person is when they have sex, the more likely they are to have failed relationships.
The younger a woman is when she becomes sexually active, the more likely a woman is to not experience an orgasm. (This is due to the fact that doctors and sex therapists have found that nearly 70% of women can not orgasm during sex until they first learn to orgasm through masturbation). Overall, a woman’s ability to orgasm has absolutely nothing to do with a man or whatever partner she chooses. A woman’s comfort level and ability to achieve orgasm is based on her awareness, self control, self esteem, and several other factors. Men have it much easier, they can achieve an orgasm through certain amounts of stimulation naturally where as a woman has to allow herself to “let go.”
I run into a dilemma here though…
If what my girlfriend’s parents say is true and that the information contained within books is always “false.” Why is my sister now doing exactly what my books explain many parents do?
According to my books, one of the leading reasons why women are highly promiscuous or frigid is because of how parents raise them; particularly when it comes to genital touching.
My sister’s two year old is now in the stage of always touching her private area and taking off her clothes. My sister’s response to her when she does this is, “Don’t touch your privates, it is yucky.” The books say that almost all of the parents that exist say these kinds of things to their in regards to this issue.
Since parents do this, it creates an image in the minds of (especially young ladies) that touching of the vagina or any area around it is a very disgusting thing. As a result, this belief never changes.
This increases the possibility that a might have sex oppose to masturbate. They want the area to be touched and yet are told they should not touch it themselves. As we all know and see, these women then seek men or other female friends to touch it for them. (A lot of the teenage girls I have interviewed have admitted that their first sexual experiences took place in a group setting during sleep-overs).
With all of this in mind, I do not know if I should discuss this with my sister. She is following all of the patterns that doctors and psychologists strongly discourage a parent to follow. Seeing as though so many people think they know everything there is to know about sex, I am not sure how I should handle anything.
Every conversation I have had face to face with a person in the last year has ended up in the person I was conversing with admitting they do something that doctors say they do.
If my girlfriend’s parents are correct, then 90% of the doctors and psychologists that exist in our world would not have any .
To be continued…
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I have been away for a little while. How many changes have taken place? Are they good or bad?
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Posted:Mar 31, 2006 2:36 pm
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2006 6:42 am
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So I have been away for a little while, but has BBW Tonight changed while I was gone?
Bad things…
Younger men still don’t have popular blogs.
I see that the posting area still freezes for extended periods of time.
I see that most of the profiles in my local area are listed as being active and yet have not been active in several months and some have even been inactive for a few years.
I notice that there are still some serious problems with video introductions. They take forever to get approved and then some of them disappear very shortly after they appear.
I notice that standard members can not view samples of broadcasts anymore.
On the upside…
I notice that comments from a blogger do not increase the comment count on the main page. This is a very nice fix that they finally did!
I notice that you can add polls now. This is also a very nice fix!
I notice that you can change fonts, colors and such much easier as well as do a spelling check. It is still better to write something on a word document first and then cut and paste it after though.
I see that more men are having popular blogs!
I see that Allsleeky has begun blogging finally. Seeing as though she is one of the most beautiful members here, I am glad to see she has shown off her intellectual side as well as her sexual side. (A beautiful woman is great, but a beautiful and smart woman is something that is hard to find). Although this is not really the place… I have to say that Allsleeky has the best taste here as well. Her pictures are normally more erotic than sexual. She is one of the only popular women I have seen here who is not showing off pictures of her breasts and vagina at every possible opportunity. Please do not get me wrong, not all of the women here do this… Sleeky is just one who stands out.
I notice that you can directly quote now. This is wonderful because a lot of people misused quotes before. (They would not really quote someone in a full way; they would only quote limited portions of what someone had to say in an attempt to attack their writing).
In the end…
Many of the things that have been added are truly great things. The problem is that instead of fixing some rather annoying problems with the site, they went ahead and left them alone and just added new content. I must say, first you should fix problem areas and then expand later. It seems as though they will never fix some of the problems and just toss in some new features (like throwing a bone to a hungry dog).
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Communication...
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Posted:Mar 31, 2006 10:49 am
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2006 7:10 am
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In response to a recent comment…
To be honest, I think we all face the problem of communication with our partners from time to time. Telling someone they are doing something right or wrong can be a tough thing. When you incorporate this into sex, it is even harder.
I think the only way to figure it out is to analyze what is wrong. If they are doing something that hurts us, we need to speak up about it. If they are doing something that doesn’t have a direct effect on us then it is a toss up. It would be good to say something but then again, since it does not affect us, it might not be worth possibly upsetting them.
The hardest part about sex is being equal…
We all want pleasure and we are inclined to do what we can to get the most pleasure we can as often as we can.
I could sit down and tell my girlfriend that she needs to be a little more aggressive (rougher) when she is performing fellatio on me. I don’t bother saying it though because it still feels “wonderful.” A little bit of extra pleasure for me is not worth it to me since it might offend her.
The only times I speak to her about something is when she is actually hurting me during sex.
What is other people’s opinion of this matter…?
Do you speak up about anything and everything?
Or…
Do you only speak up about things that are immediately important?
What is considered as an important sexual issue?
Do you disregard your partner’s feelings and only focus on your own?
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Something to think & talk about
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Posted:Mar 31, 2006 8:47 am
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2006 9:17 am
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If you were to analyze what sexual aspect you felt you needed to learn more about, what would that aspect be?
A lot of people feel that admitting they need to know more is a bad thing because it represents that they are failing at something.
The truth is… admitting you need to learn more (improve) at something is not failing. When you do not seek knowledge when you know you need it that is real failure.
As anyone who has read my blog for awhile knows, I don’t lash out at people or laugh at people who don’t know something.
For today… there is food for thought…
What area do you need to improve in sexually?
Remember that sex is not just physical. An improvement could be learning to be intimate after the physical part of sex. Things like staying around to kiss, cuddle, and talk after you have sex can always be something that certain partners will care a great deal about.
As always, some members are shy and do not want to be laughed at by others. If you fall under this category, you can just email me. Although emailing me is not needed… anyone who insults another person on my blog gets banned. Offering opinions is fine as long as it does not harm the person posting the bit of information.
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Inside Man
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Posted:Mar 31, 2006 7:41 am
Last Updated:May 30, 2024 12:10 pm
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For those who like movies…
I would suggest the movie Inside Man.
I went to see this last night since my girlfriend just got a job working evenings (going places alone is not fun). The movie was pretty awesome though.
I am a big Denzel Washington fan and he is one of the main characters.
The movie is about a bank robbery at a New York bank, money is not the motive behind robbing the bank though.
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