Across the pond
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Posted:Apr 25, 2011 5:39 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 2:32 am
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This is what I look like after flying to the UK, working five 14 hour days on little sleep and a nasty sinus cold. Fun times, fun times, all in all though I enjoyed working with the people that I met over there.
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So Long...
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Posted:Apr 15, 2011 12:26 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 2:32 am
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This past weekend I hauled the last of my stuff from my place in NC, handed the keys back over to the landlord and thanked God I am not going to have to make that drive anymore.
I will miss the place more than I thought I would…
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Another one to add to the list...
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Posted:Mar 28, 2011 11:20 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 2:32 am
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Just got back from an unexpected trip to Monterey California and I have to say that it is the first place in California that I have visited where I thought "This would be a great place to live."
Sadly the trip was all work and no play, but it has definitely made my bucket list of places to visit one day as a tourist, preferably with company and not have to snap pictures while I was driving to and from the site.
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Supply and Demand
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Posted:Mar 22, 2011 10:06 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2011 4:20 pm
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Every once in a while I will get an e-mail from someone who compliments me on my profile and then mentions something about how much e-mail I must get. I am of course thankful for the compliments, but it also reminds me of just how different the experience on this site is for men and women.
The truth is that I don't get a lot of e-mails and on the odd day that I decide to sit down and write introductory e-mails to profiles I am interested in I might hear back from 1 in 15.
To me it is more about supply and demand than what I do or don't have to offer. In Pennsylvania there are 426,844 men seeking women, compared to 34,635 women seeking men. By time all the fake profiles are weeded out and inactive profiles are weeded out that ratio works out to be about150-200 men for every 1 woman on the site.
With the ratio being that skewed there is just no way that men even exceptional ones are going to receive the same kind of volume of e-mail that women get.
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Stand Up!
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Posted:Mar 8, 2011 10:48 pm
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2011 11:25 am
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One of the first things that I noticed in my new job is that there were people who worked standing up instead of using their desk chairs and their desk elevated at a higher level. I asked them about this and according to them supposedly it is much healthier than working sitting down.
If I was the conspiracy theorist sort, I'd say that some corporate CEO got it in their head that they could cut expenses by not having to buy office chairs for employees. But I am not so I did some investigating. Besides it really would not save all that much money.
The overall theory is that when people sit their body goes into a state of rest. As a result the body does not consume as much energy, less calories get burnt and turn to fat instead. In addition to consuming less energy the body starts producing chemicals that encourage fat building.
There have been a couple of studies which seem to support this theory and logically it makes sense, standing requires more energy as leg muscles flex and twitch to support the rest of the body.
Apparently the same studies show that even people who exercise regularly see an additional benefit to it. It helped reduce the miniscule amount of body fat they would have naturally put on as they got older.
Personally I don't ever see standing while I work or am on the computer at home, but who knows, if the waistline continues to creep as I get older I may just have to change things up a bit.
That said I definitely need to dial up my activity rat, I better start having more sex…
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Spartacus: Why I Love this Show
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Posted:Feb 26, 2011 11:14 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2011 9:56 pm
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Even though the gratuitous violence, nudity and sex make for great eye candy, I have come to the conclusion that the thing I love most about the show is it's colorful use of language, historically accurate or not.
Take the following exchange between the magistrate and Batiatus as the magistrate pay his respects to Batiatus for his loss:
Magistrate: "It is a heavy thing to see a father so strong in life unable to rise"
Batiatus: "The weight of it keenly felt"
I just absolutely love the metaphor and how it open the door for an equally descriptive metaphor in response.
Then of course there is the more colorful language. Here Vettius shows up at Titus's funeral demanding that Batiatus make arrangements to honor the deal that Titus struck before he was killed. This is oh so much better than simply telling someone to "Go to hell" or "Go fuck yourself"
Batiatus: "Turn desire to piss and shit and see yourself well satisfied"
Another example is the following:
Batiatus: "…cause that move you to seek audience on the day I watched my father burn?"
Gannicus: "Apologies Dominus, I could wait no longer"
Batiatus: "To honor my father's wishes sees you fall to control of a man most hated. To defy them sees this house excluded from games in the new arena. Cock in the ass from either direction"
Sadly last night was the season finally and it looks like next season they will be moving forward with the timeframe after the death of Batiatus. Hopefully the character that will replace his role in the show will be equally as colorful in their use of language.
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I Spoke Too Soon...
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Posted:Feb 23, 2011 8:30 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 2:32 am
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...the quest is not over, still in search of decent volleyball. last week play was apparently not the rule.
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Long Distance Desperation
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Posted:Feb 21, 2011 11:52 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2011 6:29 pm
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Recently I was engaged in a conversation about traveling long distances to meet someone. Their opinion was that anyone who traveled a long distance to have sex must be desperate.
On the surface I would be inclined to agree if it was just about finding a willing partner to get off with, but that has not been my experience. To me it is anything but desperate and it is definitely not just about getting off. it is about two people who have spent time getting to know each other being able to express their affections for each other even if it only for a moment.
Typically I never went looking for someone who wasn't local because distance can be frustrating as they will frequently result in a dead end because of the complications that distance brings. But the internet being the way it is, occasionally I found myself in situations where I was communicating with women who were not close.
Many of those communications never went anywhere beyond a few casual e-mails, chats or maybe a phone call or two, but a few of them went on to be conversations on the phone with someone that I had developed a special connection with that would last for hours at a time. By then it made sense to make the effort to meet face to face.
The farthest I have traveled to meet someone that I had built a bond with was from NYC to Australia. Things worked out where I had the time, cash, chemistry and had always had a desire to visit Australia.
To me at a certain point if the logistics were right it seemed natural to culminate the process of getting to know each other by meeting face to face even if we both knew that being together physically most likely wasn't going to extend beyond that one visit.
I have always found sex under those kinds of circumstances so much more fulfilling than meeting someone at a bar or hooking up for the night with someone met online just a few hours/days before.
Given a choice I'd rather connect with someone long distance once every two months that I have spent a considerable amount of time getting to know than enjoy local casual sex once or twice a week with someone I who I can't even say what their favorite color is.
I guess because of the manner in which I have experienced it I don't see traveling long distances to meet someone as being desperate. I just see it as an opportunity to enjoy something that goes beyond the casual fuck even if it only last for a brief moment in time.
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Personality test
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Posted:Feb 20, 2011 4:28 pm
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2011 4:35 pm
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I took a personality test out of curiosity and I have to hand it to them, they were fairly spot on, science is a beautiful thing.
You seek challenges. You are a tough-minded, independent thinker who likes to explore ideas or problems thoroughly. You focus easily. And you are systematic and exacting in pursuing your interests and goals. You are also assertive. You have a lot of energy. You think quickly, make decisions faster than most, and take an analytical approach to people, issues and ideas.
You are not conventional in your attitudes or values. Autonomy is essential to you. You do not follow the rules unless the rules are logical and useful. Nor do you unreservedly respect authority. Instead, you tend to be skeptical, irreverent and pragmatic. And you are comfortable working or pursuing your hobbies alone.
Yet you have a wild side. You are daring; you like novel ideas and new adventures. You are not interested in maintaining routine social engagements either, and you can't tolerate "small talk." Instead, you make a few very close friends, particularly with individuals who share your interests.
Relating to Others:
You are direct and informed; and you gravitate to men and women who are intellectually exciting and like to discuss topics broadly and thoroughly. Because you are curious, creative, ambitious, hard working and unconventional in your attitudes and values, your friends admire you. In return you are fiercely loyal to those you love.
In love and relationships:
As a Director you seek someone who is self-sufficient and enjoys time alone. You also like a partner who is imaginative and intuitive and not competitive with you. And because you can be oblivious to rules and schedules, your partner must be flexible. For you, sex is woven with subtleties and symbolism and you like a mate who finds intimacy in this unspoken psychological journey. To balance your direct style and tendency to make up your mind quickly, you gravitate to a mate with good social skills--someone who weighs alternatives carefully, listens actively and handles conflict with nuanced grace. And because you tend to hide your emotions, you often seek someone who is emotionally expressive. You also like someone who is spontaneous, even mischievous, as well as a mate who can appreciate your rugged individualism and support of your drive to succeed.
Maybe on my next profile re-write I'll just use this...
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A Quest is Over…
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Posted:Feb 16, 2011 8:35 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 2:32 am
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After a month long quest I finally found some decent volleyball. After almost a year away from indoor ball my skills suck, but it was good to get back out there again, even if I have to drive 30 miles to get there.
Now if I can just find someplace with some sand courts when the weather gets warm…
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To answer some questions I have been getting…
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Posted:Feb 15, 2011 11:04 am
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2011 5:35 am
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Yes, my photo shows up in the online matches a lot. It does not mean that I am actually at the computer. I have to work, sleep and enjoy other things in life.
Yes, I exercised some ingenuity to have it appear there as often as it does.
No, I did not put it there because I am trying to be a player. I am merely trying to improve my odds of connecting with the right woman.
No, it doesn't have to start off as a relationship, I just like the idea of spending time with one person and seeing how things develop.
Yes, local is best, but certain distance situations are possible as I work a lot from home.
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Going Solo Because Real Sex is Just Too Much Work
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Posted:Feb 12, 2011 11:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2011 12:20 am
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I was watching Bill Maher last night and in his closing bit he cited a study that shows that more and more men in the US are opting to use porn to get off instead of getting it on with their significant other. Has technology caused us to reach a point where the physical act of sex will eventually become a thing of the past?
Some months ago I had heard of a similar study regarding Japan where they tried to link men's lack of interest in physical sex due to a preference for porn as one of several reasons as to why the birth rate there is so low. While I can see how it could have some impact on the birth rate, I think their issues are more cultural than people choosing porn over real sex.
The dominant reason cited by the men in the studies was that they preferred going solo because it was less complicated and easier. After all technology has made it so atht porn is readily available, anytime, anywhere with gobs of content for almost every fetish.
Another reason cited was concerns about STD's. To me that is a legitimate concern. Condoms and dental dams help mitigate the spread of STD's, but they are by no means 100% effective especially given the carelss manner in which so many people use them inthe heat of the moment. Even so I don't see how that is a factor when choosing porn over the wife.
For some I suppose it is away of achieving some sexual gratification without physically cheating although most would say that it is the same thing as cheating anyway.
I can't help but wonder about the impact prolonged periods of self fulfillment have on a person's desire to actually engage in sex. I wonder about this because I do go prolonged periods without sex as there are times in my life where events lead me to not seek opportunities for sex and even when I am, I don't always take advantage of every opportunity that comes along.
I subscribe to the quality over quantity theory and while just getting off can be fun, I tend to enjoy it more if there is some substance behind it. Given that mindset, it sometimes leads to periods when I go extended times without sex that there is an adjustment period for me before I can have an orgasm from sex with a partner.
In some ways that initial adjustment period definitely has it's benefits for a woman who has a lot of stamina, but unfortunately it also leaves some women wondering if I had a good time until I am able to again get to a point where I can come from sex.
I seriously hope that we are not heading for the scenario spoofed by Sylvester Stallone and Sandra Bulloch in Judge Dredd where the only sex people had was virtual.
Ultimately there are some definite advantages to going solo, and when single there is wisdom in being judicious regarding sexual partners, but personally I could not ever see making that my preferred way of achieving sexual gratification especially if there is a woman in my life that I enjoy spending time with.
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