Rough Sex An how to introduce it to your lover
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Posted:Jul 7, 2007 8:36 pm
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Some Like It Hot
Let's talk about romance. Let's talk about passion. Let's talk about lust and unyielding adoration in the form of rough sex.
When I use words like romance, passion, and adoration most people immediately think of a great love affair or even a love story where the two people are smoldering merely from an embrace. Their eyes locked and entranced - even now they are breathing the same breath, inhaling and exhaling each other as if their union was the birth of nirvana itself.
Oblivious to everything surrounding them he grips her waist as if love were something you drive, pulling her close and slightly lifting her at the same time. She is futilely pushing on his chest with her small hands as if to only slow down the inevitabl...
Then as both mouths are about to taste the same kiss…she grabs his face with a furious grip, the tips of her nails slightly digging into whiskered flesh and she bites his bottom lip to the painful point of almost popping it.
Training Day
Some not only like it hot, they like it painful as well. Many women that you might look at as frail or weak or even fragile can take a lot more than one can imagine when it comes rough sex. Explore the obvious lessons of physics and logic first:
If you are a man of average height and weight in your late twenties, you probably weigh between 150 pounds and 200 pounds give or take a few pounds. Most guys really like to put it to a girl when getting it on. Now we have: Weight + Speed = Force. If she can take 150 pounds of anything slamming her until the point of climax then she can probably take some spanking and rough play.
Discovering if she likes it a little rough is not as tough as it seems and she has probably already given you clues.
For instance, if during intercourse she is always telling you to slow down or take it easy, then that is a sign that she wants the storybook lovemaking session that includes some slow, boring grinding that is much more satisfying to her than you. Women that hate rough play have no problem telling you to "take it easy".
The reason they don't like rough play most of the time is that they think it demeans them and promotes abuse and disrespect. Out of the bedroom maybe it does. On the other hand if she ever uses the words "harder" or "deeper" or "faster" or if SHE initiates anal sex then she can probably take more intense physical contact in other areas as well.
Now that you have heard the signs it is time to introduce some ideas to her and see what level she is playing at. The best way and most definitely the first way you should introduce rough play to your partner without looking like an abuser is Spanking.
Spanking your girl is something she might like (and you might too) and it is safe and regulated. You smack her ass (fingers together, palm arched and cupped) and then ask her, "Do you like that"? "Do you want more?" "Harder, do you want it harder"? Now you have achieved level one.
If you want to go to level two immediately then when she answers "yes, I like it", you grab a wad of hair and pull it as you say, "Of course you do".
True Romance
So now you know a few things about your girl and how to introduce them to her. Ask her as you are doing it if she is enjoying it or not. You know she likes the spanks and hair pulls - so maybe she is up for more. The next time you two are having intercourse, lay next to her in the spoon position lifting her leg a bit to penetrate her.
When you start getting into it, pull her hair and wrap your hand around her throat as if you are going to strangle her. Grip her firmly but not too tight, this is more mental than physical and many women get turned on in this ultimate "SUBMISSIVE" position.
Do not be surprised if you get turned on by it as well from dominating and slightly scaring her while turning her on at the same time. I call this position the "thief". A guy breaks in, gets caught in the act and tells her if she screams he will kill her. This is role play and role play is the best place for rough play.
Sometimes it is not just the spanking, pulling, pinching and biting it is the mental game you are playing with each as well. Speaking of which, the next level of rough play or pain is biting or pinching any sensitive body part such as the nipples, lips, clitoris, or even the head.
Some people (not me) like teeth as a sex tool and use them when they want to be rough. YIKES! Okay, maybe I like it a little. The veteran of rough play knows when to stop biting and not leave a scar or break the skin, because it is not healthy and frankly it is not nice. Anything that would leave a scar or truly physically hurt someone is going overboard and will probably have repercussions.
Be a good communicator with your partner and focus on mutual pleasure when it comes rough sex. If you are insistent on hurting creatures that are smaller and weaker than you for your own pleasure - you may have read Of Mice & Men too many times and should consider seeking help.
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A pleasure guide to the female body...
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Posted:Jul 2, 2007 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Dec 28, 2021 10:53 am
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Female Erogenous Zones
Her Neck
Her neck must be one of the hottest spots on the female body. I have never found a method more effective than hot passionate kisses on the neck it a properly done nibble to turn a good night kiss into an invitation for brunch. There are several things to keep in mind here … but most importantly, control yourself! Hickies may have been the big thing when you were younger, but most women hate them, especially when they have to wear turtlenecks for a week! If you must suck for blood, keep the hickies to places that are usually covered by clothes. Try to have a moist mouth, but don't slobber! Cover different areas of her neck with tender kisses, using the areas under/behind the ears for extra stimulation. Light nibbling and tugging usually work really well also. Start out soft and gentle as she gets into it, slowly go harder and wilder to light that fire of passion within her.
Her Ears
Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra-sensitive to your touch. Use the pads of your index finger and thumb to massage the outer ears with slow, firm movements. Gently squeeze the earlobes. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and then exhale deeply but gently while you keep nibbling. Don't be shy about making noise while you're lingering there, the sound of your breath and moans is a huge turn-on for most women. Make sure to remember there is a fine line between sensual ear play and “wet willies”. Very few women enjoy having someone's tongue jammed down their ears!
Her Lips
The number one mistake guys (especially married or in long term relationships) make during sex? Not enough kissing. Women love to kiss, and many of them complain that guys just don't spend enough time on it. But don't just kiss more, also do it better. Try varying the intensity (kiss her softly, then more passionately, then slow it down again). When you're done with her lips, move on to her cheeks, eyelids, forehead, nose, neck, or earlobes (stressing neck and ears). Don’t get dull doing the same thing over and over; make sure to mix up your style. If you generally move your hands all over her body when you kiss (which, by the way, is really good), try kissing her for several minutes without letting your hands roam (focus all you passion on the kiss), and let her indicate when she's ready to move on.
Her Scalp
You've noticed that a lot of women play with their hair? It's not just a nervous habit; they do it because it feels good. Chances are she's wishing you would play with it, too. The scalp can be very sensitive to stimulation, and since she's probably not expecting you to lavish any attention on it, surprise her. Having her hair brushed can be a very sensual experience. Or run your fingers through it as you're kissing her, or, simply caress her scalp gently with your hand. Get some bonus points for washing or blow-drying, just leave the actual styling to her - you'll never get that thing with her bangs to work out right. On the other hand, some women have phobias when it comes to having their head touched; start out slow so your partner has a chance to stop you if she is one of those. One of the best places is to run your fingers through her hair at the base of the neck. You can even gently close your hand and lightly tug her hair as you give her a passionate kiss.
Her Breasts
Breasts are familiar territory for most men and they're fun, so it's unlikely you'll shortchange them. The mistake you're more likely to make is giving them too much (or too vigorous) attention before she's ready. Over-stimulating the breast can be numbing or painful for women during some parts of their menstrual cycle. Try taking the less-is-more approach. Touch her breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. That allows her to have the important moment of anticipation. Stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples until they become aroused (hard) and don't just focus on the bull’s-eye; same concept as before - anticipation.
The entire breast is rich in nerve endings and all breasts have the same number of nerve endings. Thus, the woman with smaller breasts may experience increased sensations per touch. This results from a condensed amount of nerve endings. All breasts respond with time; lovers, go slow, take your time and slowly fondle the breast. Areas that are especially sensitive to touch include the nipple and the areola (the pinkish area that directly surrounds the nipple). One of the most sensitive spots, which is often ignored, is the underside of her breast. When kissing and touching her breasts, try starting around the outside and moving inward with slow circles. She may push your mouth or hand directly to her nipples, but don't let her do it, just continue moving slowly towards her nipple. Take your time; she is not going anywhere, so tease her. This whole process should take at least a few minutes. Next, wet the tip of your finger and lightly touch and roll her nipple around. Then, very lightly, using your fingertips, squeeze the nipple between them and when they are nice and hard, bring your mouth in. Note: some women enjoy nibbling and rougher play, while others are really sensitive and prefer light soft touching. Find out her preferences by asking or watching her reactions.
Her Perineum
The perineum is the area between the vagina and the anus, it is very sensitive for a lot of women and it often goes unexplored. It's made from tissue similar to the vaginal lips so there are a lot of nerve endings there. It also has an element of intimacy that might turn her on. Some girls are scared of or disgusted by anal play, so if this is the case, ease her mind by reassuring her that you are not going to do anything she is against. It's not a part of the body that's normally exposed, so she will feel like she's giving you special privileges, which can be exciting. This area is like any other area you first encounter that is sensitive, stick to a light touch at first and hold off until she's been aroused for some time. For a smoother experience, try using a little lubricant.
Her Clitoris
It is located at the top juncture of her inner vaginal lips, a small knob of pink flesh. Women like different amounts of direct stimulation on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed clitoris, others would shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her clit; the goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly, such as through her labia. Often, what is unacceptably rough at first may be fine after she's very excited (i.e., very wet). The fact is, most women need a good bit of arousal before having their clitoris targeted, but once they have reached that point, that's where many women want you to devote your attention. If direct simulation is out of the question you can make a peace sign and place that at the top of her mound and bring the two fingers together kneading the area.
Her Other Soft Spots
Here is where you can be really creative. Try tenderly kissing or caressing the backs of her knees, the insides of her arms, her inner thighs, or her palms. Women love to have these areas gently stroked, kissed, licked, or blown upon (be gentle on these areas, they are made of very soft tissue). Gentle stimulation is usually more arousing than pressure that's hard or rough. Catching her off guard can be half the fun. A lot of people don't realize that having a tongue going up their inner arm is going to be erotic. Again, we must stress that skin is the largest organ; there is lots to explore, so get at it!
Her Buttocks
Ready to get to the bottom of things? A lot of women like their buttocks attended to, and with more vigor than you might think. You can use pressure on a butt that you wouldn't use on a breast. It's not sensitive the way a nipple or a clitoris is so you can knead them and squeeze them. Many women are self conscious about their behinds, so spending time here will show her that you like it, and hopefully allow her to be more comfortable with herself and you.
The Small Of Her Back
Don't make the mistake of making her breasts the only stop on your way to the main event. That's what she's expecting. Surprise her by asking her to lie on her stomach and massage her lower back. Besides being rich in nerve endings, the small of the back has pressure points where stress can accumulate. A massage there might not turn her on in the same way that sucking on her nipple or rubbing her clitoris will, but it'll feel good and help release stress. What's more, it could even help with arousal, by increasing blood flow and engorgement in the pelvic area. Start by applying steady but moderate pressure with your fingertips and if she likes it, work up to a deeper massage. It never hurts to throw in a few kisses there as well. One technique we have learned usually works well with a massage is; while you are massaging her, take a minute or so to kiss her neck, then run your tongue very softly down her spine. After this you can continue with the massage or "go for lunch!"
Her Fingers and Toes
A little creativity can go a long way when sex is involved. Here's a tip: Try sucking on her fingers or toes during foreplay or intercourse. (Granted, unless you're a contortionist, the toe thing may be a bit rough during intercourse, but you can usually find her fingers.) They're a lot more sensitive than you might think and for whatever reason, a relatively large area in the brain receives sensation for them. Lightly kissing or passionately sucking them, especially combined with the sensations you're causing in her genitals, can be incredibly erotic.
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Fingering Techniques
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Posted:Jul 2, 2007 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2021 8:02 am
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Fingering Techniques
Although the old "just stick it in" approach "gets the job done", it certainly won't keep her coming back for more. This article contains a list of techniques to maximize her pleasure, and keep her begging for more…
Techniques for vaginal fingering and other clitoral stimulation.
Labial Massage
Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.
A-One and A-Two and a-Three
Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.
Close But No Cigar
If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.
Push Here to Start
Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.
Tap Dancing
Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.
Cervix Clock
A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't.
From the Outside
Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.
Imitations
An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own.
Off the Edge
Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.
Ovaries
Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.
Proper Invite
Begin with a light, gentle caress that barely touches the inner thighs and pubic hair. Don't go much further until your partner's pelvis begins to arch upwards. Tease and caress until the lips of her vulva invite your fingers to come play.
Tracing
After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive.
Crecent Moon
Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the clitoris, and the external G-Spot\bladder.
Four Directions
With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side.
Gentle Touch and Tickle
Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly.
Healing Thrust
Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed.
Pinch and Pull
Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris.
Rock Around the Clit
With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'.
Temple Gate Tease
With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible.
Tour de France
Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris.
Triple Digit Pet
Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia.
Twist and Shout
Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist.
Now you do not have to learn all these at once but with each one you add to your tool box of knowledge you will become a more complete lover and give her the experience she so desires
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For the guys - Squirt like a pornstar and have lasting power like one too
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Posted:Jun 28, 2007 4:57 pm
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2021 6:41 am
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OK last blog was about making her squirt like a pornstar, Now its us guys turn.
Many men want to know ways to prolong ejaculation and how to make it come out with force. One healthy way to do this is to simply work out your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle which is better known as the Kegel muscle (also found in women).
The next time you go to the washroom and begin urinating, try to stop the flow midway. Can you? When you have an erection, can you squeeze your PC muscle and make your penis jump substantially? If not, then it would be wise to start exercising your Kegel muscle to not only enhance sexual functioning but also maintain penile fitness.
Just as working out your biceps will give you better definition and more strength, the PC muscle can help you strengthen and better define your erections and orgasms. But as is the case with everything, discipline is required. There are different sets of exercises you can do. Select the one that is best suited for you and do it regularly.
Note the Pelvic floor muscle is what will be getting strengthened.
Working The PC Muscle
As mentioned, stopping your urine midstream can help you figure out when you're using your PC muscle. Try stopping your urination three times just to ensure that you understand where the muscle is located. You will also feel your anus contracting.
Exercise 1
Quickly clench and release your PC muscle for a 10-second period. Take a 10-second break. Perform three sets, then take a 30-second break. Clench and unclench for 5 seconds with 5-second breaks in between, 10 times in a row. Tighten your PC muscle for 30 seconds and release for 30 seconds, 3 times in a row. Repeat the first step and you're done for the day.
Exercise 2
Tighten your muscle and hold for a count of 5, and release. Repeat 10 times. Squeeze and release the muscle 10 times quickly. Repeat 3 times. Tighten and release your PC muscle in long and short intervals for counts of 10. Repeat 3 times. Squeeze your muscle and hold it for as long as you can. Try to work your way up to 120 seconds (relax, that's only two minutes).
Exercise 3
Fully squeeze and release your muscle over and over again. Begin with one set of 30, and then slowly work your way up to over 100. Squeeze as tightly as you possibly can (make sure it's only your PC muscle that you're clenching). Hold it for 20 seconds, then rest for 30 seconds. Repeat 5 times.
Exercise 4:
Simply begin squeezing and releasing your muscle for 2 minutes a day and gradually work your way up to doing it for 20 minutes at least 3 times a day. You should eventually be able to perform at least 200 repetitions per session.
Do Kegels Any Time & Any Place
You can do these exercises just about anywhere and at any time. No one will know that you're squeezing, unless of course you keep smiling like an goofball while doing them.
Because the muscle heals quickly, you'll begin noticing that you're waking up with more solid erections and that's always a good thing. In time, Hugh Hefner will have nothing on you when you get to be his age. Your sexual abilities and control will increase immensely and you'll find that your penis has become stronger and firmer. Shoot across the room PC exercises can also be beneficial in the "squirt across the room" department as well.
Porn Star Peter North
Peter North who is well known for his ejaculation abilities did these exercises daily. So if you do them, not only can you have the most solid erection ever, but you might also be able to ejaculate on the ceiling!
Practice Makes Perfect
Remember that the results will not be evident the instant you've done your first set of kegel exercises. It takes time, like with any muscle that you begin "training" regularly.
Powerful Sex
Once you begin to master your exercises and are able to see a significant difference, the next time you're making love, stay inside your partner without moving. Instead of going in and out like you normally would, simply squeeze and release your PC muscle.
If your partner has been doing their exercises as well, you can both perform this on each other. So there you have it; an easy way to keep your partner satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time. Enjoy!
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Hot to make your woman squirt like a porn star
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Posted:Jun 28, 2007 2:12 pm
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2021 7:39 pm
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k, there is too much misinformation about this out there. Yes some porn stars cheat and add water then squirt it out, that is not what this post is all about. This post will demystify the tantric method for giving a woman a real squirting orgasm. Just remember if at first you do not succeed keep trying and thats half the fun for you and your girl.
Make Her Squirm,
Then Make Her Squirt:
Female Ejaculation
When it comes to turning a woman on, there’s wet, and then there’s wet. You can learn how to unleash a tidal wave of orgasmic juices in your bed. Read on to find out more about the phenomenon of female ejaculation.
How It Works
Females ejaculate? Yes, they do. We’re talking about a gusher of fluid spurting out of her pussy as she comes. Actually, to be more accurate, the fluid comes squirting out of her urethra. Don’t let this gross you out, though; it’s not pee! Female cum is a clear, odorless liquid produced by a small organ called the “female prostate,” or urethral sponge, which is located between the urethra and vagina. The fluid it produces just happens to come out of the pee hole, but...so does guys’ semen, right?
While some women may experience ejaculation naturally in the course of intercourse or other sex play, most require some concentrated stimulation of the G-spot. Massaging the G-spot causes the urethral sponge to become engorged with fluid, which is then expelled during orgasm. And, as with an orgasm, ejaculation also requires the woman to “let go.” Before ejaculating, the woman will feel as though she is going to pee. However, it is nearly impossible for her to urinate while coming, because the muscular contractions of orgasm close off the bladder and prevent the passage of urine.
Use Your Hands
The most reliable way to induce female ejaculation is by manual stimulation. Lay a towel on the bed before you begin (the amount of fluid released can be considerable). Make sure your hands are clean and your nails well trimmed. Get into a comfortable position beside her (this gives better position and leverage). Use lube if necessary to get started or in case she starts to feel dry.
Find the G-Spot
Begin by stroking or licking her clit to get her aroused. Once she begins to get turned on, insert your two middle fingers and do a come here motion with them, your pinky and index fingers should point downwards also the tighter the hand is to the pussy the better,and place your other hand firmly on her stomach this will push forward the g-spot and line everything up for better orgasm. About an inch to two inches inside the vaginal entrance, you should feel a round, roughened area on the front wall. This is the G-spot. Stroke against this area using firm pressure or just behind it using the come here motion. It should enlarge and begin to feel more solid. Try touching or licking her clit as you manipulate the G-spot. Follow her responses and pace yourself to prolong her period of arousal; the more time she’s aroused, the more juice is building up in there.
The Urge to Urinate
As she gets closer to coming, she will start to feel as though she has to urinate. That’s the cum beginning to flow into her urethra. In order for her to ejaculate, she has to relax, let go, and push down and out with the same muscles she would use as if she were peeing. It may be hard to overcome the impulse to hold back, but you can reassure her, again, that if she is coming, she will not pee.
Instead, as she comes and pushes the fluid out, she should feel extra intense orgasmic pleasure, and you should be rewarded with a spurt of nectar that may range from gentle gush to a drenching spray.
Hints and Tips
Attaining female ejaculation may take some practice and experimentation. You may find it easier to stimulate her G-spot if she gets on her hands and knees and you enter her from behind, pressing down on the G-spot instead of up.
There you have it, if the girl is healthy with some practice she will be able to squirt. I have yet to meet a pussy I could not get to squirt.
At first it could take 1-3 sessions of trying that could last as long as 20 mins, this just depends on your skill and her being able to learn to relax .
As you become more experienced it will get much easier I have made a girl squirt in less than 20 secs and on average can usually do it in 3 -5 mins .
Like they say practice makes perfect.
If you liked this blog and want it to continue let me know.
Look forward to hearing about all your successes as well.
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Welcome to my how to blog
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Posted:Jun 28, 2007 1:52 pm
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2011 6:03 pm
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Figured I would make the world a better place and pass along so of my experience.
So guys and girls watch for my messages as they will give valuable info on how to get your women off to the point of mind shattering convulsing orgasms.
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