Real or not Real
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Posted:Nov 1, 2013 3:14 pm
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2013 2:13 pm
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We wonder why so many people are not real, even when they say they are. Most couples we contact say they are real and that race age and size don't matter and that they just want to meet for some hot sexual fun. but when we contact them and start a conection, and lead into possible actually meeting in person that's where they always have excuses for not meeting, and we get them all, but the truth. After so many years in this lifestyle we have became keen to the bullshit, if you don't want to meet with us just say so at the begining....don't pretend that you are all open and it is all about the sex when you really are not. Yes we are older now and not KEN and BARBIE, so if you were expecting supermodels to ravish you in the parkinglot, then why didn't you just say that in the first place, We enjoy friendships just as much as the next, but don't have to be "Friends" to have sex, sometimes it is better anyway. We didn't join BBW Tonight 12 years ago to find chat buddies and so called friends, we are swingers that perfer to play in the same room full swap with other couples and thats all, we are not trying to get someone to BUY our affections, or looking to date, we are not looking for replacements of one another, we have been together for a long time and are not going to be appart till we pass on, same room full swap sex and we know that we are going home with each other when the play date is over. So you are 21 and built like a brick shit house, well good for you,We are happy for you, but when it comes right down to it, We aren't looking at that super model body for what it will do for our ego, we are looking at you for what you were made for and that is sex, and we all do that in the same way as has everyone from the beginning of time it is just sex.....nothing more
I know there are preferances with everyone, as too size, like some women want a huge cock, and some men like little titties, but if it is just sex, what's the problem? Yes we like to sit in a lounge and flirt and have a few drinks or a hot tub and swap stories of our sexual adventures, but to us that is foreplay, and ultimately we are wanting sex, nothing more, nothing less.....we like to make our partners scream with excitment and enjoy mind blowing orgasums just for the pure pleasure of it. So don't say you are real unless you main objective is uninhabited, full on, heart pounding mind blowing sexual pleasure, that is REAL, thinking that you are better than us and we don't deserve your attention or you only want to be put on a pedestal for your ego burst....that is not REAL...
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Age and the Lifestyle
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Posted:Oct 11, 2013 3:29 pm
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2013 9:53 am
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What ever happend to the notion of "everything gets better with age". We began swinging a long time ago, when our left home for good, and have had more fun than a barrel of monkeys..lol For almost 20 years we have engaged in the thrill of sharing our sexuality with like minded people, the excitment of meeting for drinks, and flirting with others leading into some very good nights,days, and moments to remember forever. Age was never a problem, 18-80 deaf, blind or crazy, as long as everyone was enjoying the situation. Some time ago, we decided that some of the, let's say 18-30 couples, just wasn't mature enough to maintain a discrete, fun and erotic good time, without introducing DRAMA into the mix, Jealousy and insecurities have no room in the lifestyle we had chosen. We set up boundries of 35-? for our choice of playmates, and everything was good. We decided that there should be no hang ups for us in the lifestyle and explored many avenues of sexual play, and found out that neither of us are bi, not homophobic, just not into bi playing...and the lifestyle was good. We, now entering into our mid fourties still having a grand ole time, hosted some large parties, one in particular, a Halloween party where we had over 200 lifestyle friends, from all over the country attend, and the lifestyle was good. We have made and maintained good friendships with many people and had even more fun, traveling, camping and playing, some friendships do end, and for various reasons, and the lifestyle seems to dwindle, due to the poor economy and for some, the fear of being exposed to the general public and whatever, these things are understandable. But here we are still the same two over-sexed always horny couple we have always been, yes the years have added a few extra pounds, maybe a few gray hairs, and some of that youthful luster that many have yet to endure. Just because we are in our fifties, and have become a bit more grounded in our lives, doesn't mean we are no longer very good at what we like, sex. We are still very active and love the lifestyle very much, even if the lifestyle doesn't like us anymore.
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Friends
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Posted:Apr 2, 2011 7:44 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2012 3:45 pm
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What is a friend?
A friend is someone that a person can depend on no matter what, A person that is there for you in your hour of need, A person you can trust with your inner most secrets and whom you can confide in with your heart.
A friend will stand beside you in all of life's ups and downs. A TRUE friend will not cast you aside when another comes along that can offer more than you. A TRUE friend doesn't care what your position in life is or what your financial status may be. A TRUE friend will not chastise you when you may disagree with their opinions. A TRUE Friend will not crucify you when a disagreement arises. A TRUE friend would never purposely put you in an uncomfortable position for their convenience. A friend is the one person you should be able to go to, at any time, for almost anything.
True friends are forever and not cast away when your usefulness is no longer needed.
We have had many people that say they are our friend, used us for their gain, then turn their back on you when they desire something different in their life.
We have made many friends in our long journey in life. Some move far away and still remain our friend, because they are TRUE friend's.
Some say they are your "best friend", but yet try to hurt you and degrade you, just because they can, they try to control you and shape you into what they think a friend should be, instead of accepting you for what you are. This would be what we call an acquaintance.
Some "friend's" will consider themselves superior to you and justify it because, after all, they have many friends and if you don't raise them up on a pedestal and glorify them, they will find someone who will, and leave you out in the cols to ask yourself, why.
We have made friends in the lifestyle and enjoyed the friends with benefits, clea-shay, but there are some that have become such good friends that the benefits feel wrong, and the friendship becomes more like family, and family with benefits is just wrong no matter how you look at it.
We are not saying we don't want friend's, friend's are wonderful, if they are TRUE friend's
In the lifestyle, friend's are grown out of chance meeting's and nurtured in trust and honesty
So, yes Virgina, there are such things as "let's play and see if we can be friend's". A lot of good friendship's have been made out of that first, lustful encounter, and if we can't become "FRIEND"S" from that, then we have had a wonderful playtime and leave it at that.
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Venting
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Posted:Jul 26, 2006 7:00 pm
Last Updated:Dec 15, 2011 3:49 pm
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I have been in this lifestyle for about 12 years now and find that,not only is it disillusioning but also mis-informative. Seems that most people are not what they say or portray in their profiles. I have also been married for 30 years and at times am asked, "How do you make it work for so long?", my answer is honesty, 100%, whole-hearted honesty, something that is really not part of the lifestyle, but should be. If folks were 100% honest in their approach to the lifestyle, there would be no back stabbing and cruelty among so-called friends. Guess that is why some contacts have to invent stories to tell, at their next meeting, about you. Honesty is usually not juicy information to pass along behind your back, which as stated in my profile, is not tolerated. I am in this lifestyle for the sex and friendships, but friendships can't emerge from the onslaught of jealous manipulation. If you are interested in meeting for sexual encounters then we are the couple for you, but if it is information and lies you need to boost your persona, then we are not what you are looking for. I do not compete in social or domestic standings and try to present myself as something I am not, nor do I have a need to gossip or fabricate stories about those we have had fun with, to glorify our own experiences. Discussions about couples, not present at a meet and greet or gathering, is not my forte', as is with alot of people we have met in the lifestyle. Unfortunately in small communities discontent runs ramped, and falseties and gossip spew like geisers, causing, stereo-typing and catagorizing of many members of the lifestyle and special groups, which in the long run just disillusions these fine folk and they will turn elsewhere for their satisfaction of the lifestyle, meaning if I or we don't make an appearance at "the best party, meet and greet, or group function" is just simply cause we choose not to. Honesty, up-front and no by products of such. Life in general deals us all enough bull-shit that we do not have to add to it in our recreation. It should be the escape from the everyday torment of work and politics and not an addition to the unpleasantries. Honesty is the only way that we can lead our lives, and always shy away from those that sling small talk and throw daggers. We enjoy the swinging lifestyle and always are searching for those that are not phoney and are honest in their persuit of sexual fulfillment.
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Untitled
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Posted:Nov 13, 2005 8:54 pm
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2012 7:54 pm
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Again I set and reflect on the past, but this time it is only just a short time ago. I pause and remember the time I wanted to join the Adult lifestyle and investigated the avenues of this adventure,embarking into a brave new world, went forth and opened up a vast multitude of, what was thought to be, passionate and open minded people for what else but sexual experiences and fantasies. At first if progressed rather smoothly and I thought I had made a good choice in the lifestyle, but at that time contacts were genuine and into meeting for sex. And not caring about status or prestige but mainly interested in caring and compassion, looking for pleasures of the flesh and yes even good friendship. I encountered alot of these people and enjoyed the camaraderie that came along with the meetings and trysts. Occasionally there would be the undesirable inquiry and cordial no thank yous would be exchanged and you went on, enjoying the next couple that found an interest. Life was good, and for the first 5 or 6 years I really enjoyed the friendships and promiscuity that transpired. Then sometime, somewhere, a few more of those undesirable came along and had a real problem with just a no thanks. And being as full of themselves as they are, harasses and torments, until you are on the verge of a total meltdown, seems no matter how often or how much you say, not interested, or not even, these incompetents continue their infiltration and undermine you in any way they can, just for their own pleasures or whatever they get out of it. I have to ask the question "why?" why do these individuals continue to thrust the jagged edged dagger into your back? what are they hoping to gain? Why do these individuals try and throw stones at you when they are not even worthy to do so? Why do these individuals make every avenue of the lifestyle a damnation alley? Why do these individuals try and turn your friends away from you with fire breath and forked tongues? What drives these individuals to constantly raise the stench of a 1000 bowels over a meeting or gathering that they was never a part of? why do some individuals continue to ride a dead that was a lost cause in the first place? I have never understood the turmoil of the mind that believes "I'm better than you" when all are equal and no matter who your friends are and whether or not they are everyone's friend. I know that I will not like everyone that I ever meet, but I do know that it doesn't matter if I do or don't. I know if we don't get along then we don't. And I am content to walk a different path. I do know that I have meet and made alot of friends along the way. And when I say friends, I'm talking true friends. People that won't be derogatory when not looking you in the face. People that don't smile at you and turn away with a destroying glint in their eyes. People who are genuinely happy to be your friend and not just so they can use you in any way. It all comes down to why do so many people have more than one face? A good side, a bad side, and an out and out ugliness to their whole being. I myself am who I am, life is already complicated enough, I don't have to add to it by being someone or something I'm not. Seems like these individuals are so childish and illiterate they even resort to hurtful name calling as took place in all of our adolescence, and again I ask myself "WHY".
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songs
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Posted:Oct 13, 2005 8:36 pm
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2012 7:51 pm
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Ever wonder how much your life is like songs? check this out
"Yesterday" I was "Born To Loose" and was told by The "Dark lady" "Maniac", that I was "Born to Be Wild". So "I shot the sheriff" "in the garden" and went "walking in Memphis". Hiding "under the boadwalk" I thought I was "taking care of business", but "that will be the day". Oh, "for what it's worth" "I'm a believer" in "seasons in the sun" and not in "werewolves of London". Now "don't" "walk away" "pretty woman" cause this is more than "puppy love". "We've only just begun" so "hit me with your best shot", "I will survive". Of course you know "I'm in love with her" "misty" "tush" and have turned to "black velvet" to feel "footloose". Thinking the booze would help I felt like the "leader of the pack" and went to "the house of the rising sun" for "love on the rocks" with a "witchy woman". "It's now or never" so "lay lady lay" and "love me tender". I was hoping to give her a "pearl necklace" but she wanted "this diamond ring" and as you know "fools rush in". the "D-I-V-O-R-C-E" is final the "12th of never" now "I" for "one" is "crying" where did I go "wrong"? But "love hurts" and I'll do the "jailhouse rock" until she wears "a long black veil" and all for a "last kiss" that I did "my way".."THE END"
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reflections
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Posted:Sep 30, 2005 7:06 pm
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2011 3:08 pm
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here I am, approaching the big 50 in my life and seem to be constantly reflecting on a time when life wasn;t so complicated as it was now. A time when gasoline was about 50 cents a gallon and the average car cost around 5 or 6,000.00 dollars, a time when tomorrow was just another day and not threatening in many ways. A time when a date was a ten spot and a drive in movie, a time when you put in a fair days work for a fair day's pay, a time when the American dream was the 3 bedroom colonial with the white picket fence in a neighborhood where you actually knew your neighbors. A time when the only gang you heard about was ToJo's gang of 4. A time when music on the radio reflected love and happiness, and the names of bands were just that, and the lyrics of songs didn't mention killing your mother or desecrating your country and maybe the most outrageous actions on stage was the gyrations of a pelvis or the shaking of your slightly over length hair. A time when holidays brought together great gathering of friends, neighbors and relatives, and celebrations was heartwarming and meaningful. As I reflect through the times I can't remember when it all headed south and life became more difficult. When did the money you earned on your job become less and less but the money you owe got more and more? When did the people you lived next door to you for years become total strangers? When did that date you wanted to take your sweetie on become a major expense and have to be figured into the budget just to do dinner and a movie? Not a nice quiet time in your car, but an expensive trip to the local theatre with a crowd of rude, obnoxious people. When did it become accepted to desecrate the good ole' red, white, and blue? When did it become common place to see a group of foreigners wearing matching bandanas and reigning terror over a section of a city or a town? When did it become impossible to chase that American dream and settle in an overpriced, low quality shack and be expected to call it home? When did it become acceptable for thousands of people to have to live under bridges and in alley ways and beg for food? And when did the food we get at the market become our nemises and cause deathly illnesses and when did the holidays become a way for mongers to pad their pockets and feed their belly's? And why do I have to work extra hours and 2 jobs just to buy that tank of gas to get me to my job in the first place? And then I reflect on that, through all of this, and no smooth road to say the least, I have had the one thing that means the most to me..my rock, my helping hands, my inspiration, my wife.
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Well I'm not sure what a blog is.
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Posted:Aug 4, 2005 6:37 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2012 7:58 pm
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But I am using it voice my opinions and or beliefs about the swinging lifestyle.
To start I married my high school sweetheart when we were both very young, almost 30 years ago, but only after several years of promiscuity and abandonment, sowing my wild oats as it were.
Giving my heart to my wife to do with as she wishes has never been a regret for me.
Finding out about swinging, when I was still wet behind the ears, fascinated me or us and was researched for many years, trying to put it all in perspective.
We are only human after all and sex with people other than our spouses seemed quit exciting. To either on of us being cheaters or cruel to each other was not an option. After many years of discussing the lifestyle and its options we proceeded to give it a try. Now this was back before the ole family home personal computer was a facility in our home. So as making that occasional trip to local adult book store to purchase the latest copy of a swing style magazine and spending hours composing letters to perspective, special friends that took sever weeks to get replies, if anyone was interested at all. Meetings seemed nearly impossible and friendships very hard to grow but somehow through all the red tape an occasional meeting was constructed. Wow I was impressed, we have now became "swingers", something that had been pursued for some time and as a bonus we met some really wonderful people that wanted the same things out of the lifestyle as we. All of this was working sorta well, then the day came when we purchased that pc for our finances and to help organize our home life and one day I typed in swinging lifestyle and opened up a vast abundance of sex sites and lifestyle locations, far beyond anything I could have imagined. Immediately I joined several sites and was astonished at just how many people were involved. My thoughts were, WOW a virtual smorgasbord of sex, any type and any way a person could ask for. My figures flew like wildfire writing to everyone that seemed compatible and a possible recreational sex partner. I sure was struck with the old reality bolt of lightening when I found out that the majority of this sea of sex was all fake. Even though, we had made some wonderful friends and had some great sex, we encountered those that were not what they seemed at all. There was the occasional "wine and dine me" for nothing at all, and that "I want to be your friend" to take what I can. And those that was a beautifully wrapped package, but still contained a steamy pile of crap. And it was these people that destroyed the illusion of grandeur about swinging in general. Then came the time that we discovered the parties and even got into sponsoring some of them, what a great way to meet potential sex buddies, we would get people from all over for some great fun and sexual exploits. We liked this very much, and then some local friends started a weekly meet and greet, which is not to be confused with a full party, meet and greets are exactly that, a chance to meet new swing members without the pressures of a one on one type of get together. If you find someone that you may "click" with then it was good, they were fun, met alot of new people that was fun and great to visit with or whatever. Then that old ugly nemesis, jealousy, would raise it's hand and try to influence all those involved and make for not such a good time. The back-stabbing, name calling, and out and out meanness rises up, and all of a sudden there they are, those pretty packages containing pure crap here to undermine anything they feel is not their "cup of tea", so to speak, and join in by the silver tongued devils, and downright leaches, creates an unpleasant environment for all. The desire and enjoyment of swinging is damaged and not repairable. These bad influences then put up a front and infiltrate your network of special friends and undermine your credibility with them causing sides to be chosen like this person drives an old car so he or she isn't worth playing with or they don't go for S&m or B&d, so they are not true swingers or maybe she's a little hippy so she is not sexy so she should go away because I am so thin or sexy that he or she doesn't stand a chance with anyone. I, for one, have always looked inside of a person to see them truly. And with some, the ugliness inside destroys even the best looking people. We are all adults here in this lifestyle and most of got into it for the sex not to play head games or be hurtful to others, just for the sex. And if you don't find me or us attractive or not as friendly as you would like then that is your choice and you move on, letting sleeping dogs lay. And we will continue to search out those that do find us what they would consider for play time and we don't need any help from those that think they know best for all. They should attend to their own knitting and let others find out for themselves what this lifestyle is all about.
For the most part the past 8 or 9 years that we have been in the lifestyle has been a wonderful ride, met a lot of fantastic people and played with some great people too and would love to continue to do so. I just know now that there are also some, that are not fantastic people, they are just people who really don't interest me or us in the least. And these people will come and go and not influence us as to who we do find likeable and would like to play with or not. I feel that someone could get too involved and be deceived or lulled into what was thought a friendship when it really was resentment and or dishonesty. That is why we have always carried the attitude of "let's fuck and see if we can be friends" and to those that are our friends, and you know who you are, you will always be our friends.
I guess this is my blog....like it or not.
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